Pried just switch with a girl...then when you post here you will balance the demographics.

... i am going to hurt you.

Hey I'm just saying ...we just have 2 girls...and like 9-10 guys O_O ...just trying to help ...besides I bet you want to

Preid, the less time your interested in a love life, you longer you'll be old and alone and regretful.

I think Pried is rather wise, actually, in doing so.

Gah. No he isn't. That's just being cynical and trying to restrict your feelings. That's not wise at all.

No, I'm not talking about that aspect. Of course it's better to express your feelings..it's healthy. I mean, it's better that he doesn't risk having a heart break now.

i am still young and chasing fruitless pursuits that will surly lead to disappointment dont appeal to me.

I learned this the hard way Pried. So I encourage you to be steadfast in what you are doing. You will know within yourself when you have found the one that you are willing to continue life with.

Learn from your mistakes. If you don't chase something because you know you'll fail, you're bound to never find it.

I do learn from my mistakes. That's why I rather start relations for the time when I am able to marry if I want to. I thought long term relations could work, as it worked for many people. But it didn't work out.

If you never pursue those relations you'll never find them though. So what if it ends up in heartbreak? You'll feel pain for a bit but it's worth it in the end, when you're married and die with someone rather than old and alone with no one who cares about you.

"You'll feel pain for a bit..."

You are wrong.

Also I'm not telling him to never marry,or to marry when he is old. I am just telling him to become a little older first...like in his 20s...or when he is able to marry.

When you're in your 20s and start to realize that you should pursue love, it'll be too later in most cases. Time waits for no one.

And yes Ahmed, only for a bit. Nothing stings your entire life, except physical disorders like cerebral palsy.

How is 20 late?? That's when (most) people marry!

Well not really...you see...you are going to the 2 extremes. "A bit" or "Entire life"...its none of those two. But I am saying that if you truly did love someone, then it will hurt you for quite a while (and I'm not saying your entire life). If you really just liked a person for physical stuff then yeah...as you said it'll hurt a "bit".

20 is late because they've already started the relation. That's why they marry at that time.

And as for if it was purely physical, then it wouldn't hurt at all.

No...by me saying 20 I don't mean exactly 20...I mean in the 20s.

And people don't have to have relations for 5-10 years to marry. Some people have relations for just a year and marry the next year (Some people have less)

Also, yeah, I guess you're right in that.

I know what you meant.

And I know it doesn't take 5-10 years, but that one year thing is usually only older folks. Younger ones take a few years, not necessarily 5.

2, 3 years, W/e that's still marrying at a very young age. Marrying any time during the 20s is good.

people used to marry at the onset of puberty ...

Yeah, that's why they had better morals.